Most of us come to a point in our lives when we know that life isn’t working the way we want it to. We become aware that we need to make some changes. It could be anything from losing weight to changing a job to leaving a relationship. Life is about change. We give ourselves many reasons to change but when the “rubber meets the road” we find just as many reasons for not being able to make the changes.
In order for us to make life changes easier, there are a few critical aspects to consider:
Do you have a deep and sincere desire to change?
If you are not motivated or excited enough from within, chances are that your success will be limited. If the change is for some external reason and isn’t for yourself, you won’t have the motivation to make it stick. For example, if you want to give up smoking because your spouse is constantly nagging you, but you happen to like smoking, you will undoubtedly fail.
Have you taken time for self reflection?
Understanding how you might self-sabotage will help you overcome the obstacles that might stand in your way. For example, I had a client some years back who adamantly stated she wanted to lose weight. After losing about 30lbs she would hit a plateau that refused to budge. Long story short – her “back story” was that if she lost the weight, she would become attractive to men and may have to date again. Scary thought since she had been molested as a child. Until she was able to work through that issue, she would not be able to lose the weight she wanted.
Are you committed to doing whatever it takes to bring about the change?
I can’t tell you how many of my clients say they will do whatever it takes but then don’t have enough “time”, “money”, “resources” to get on with it. Some change takes time and you may run into a few “potholes in the road”. Are you going to “hang in there” when you hit one of these “holes”?
Can you visualize what success looks like?
Without clarity, it’s hard to reach your goals. Just like having a roadmap to drive across the country, you need to know where you are going. An excellent tool to gain clarity about what is important to you, one that my clients love, is The Passion Test™. See http://blueprints4change.com/passiontest.htm for further information or go to http://budurl.com/thepassiontest
Do you have a support system?
It’s important to be surrounded by people (family, friends, pastor, coach) who know what you are trying to accomplish and support you every step of the way even though you may stumble from time to time.
Change can be exciting and fun; it doesn’t have to be frightening and distressing. With the right tools and support, change can be empowering, increasing your self esteem, sense of worth and fulfillment in life. Isn’t it time to get out of the rut and give it a shot?