Posts tagged: midlife crisis

Midlife: Find your Hidden Treasures!

Don’t let fear stop you from venturing into the unknown. It’s a glorious meadow filled with hidden treasures. Dance through it till you find the gold — Evelin Saxinger, ND

Field of Treasures

Field of Treasures

Points to Ponder 

What unknown am I facing right now?

What am I afraid of?

How would doing the unknown make a difference in my world?

What’s the worst that could happen?

What’s the best thing that could happen?

Take Action!
Look for a way to meet the fear head on. It probably won’t be as bad as you think.

Imagine the feeling of finding the hidden treasures.

Start dancing!

When you find the treasures, reward yourself and celebrate!

Midlife Challenges

This past week I was in Phoenix for the annual National Speakers Association convention. To say it is a high-energy event is probably an understatement!  3½ days of incredible speakers, stories, education and networking. Not to mention the 112 degree heat, which I have to say, is something I love.

One of the most memorable speeches was given by Nando Perrado. You probably don’t recognize his name but you may recall the story of a plane carrying the Uruguayan rugby team that crashed in the Andes some 35 years ago. The movie Alive, starring Ethan Hawke, was based on this incredible story of a group of young men forced to use desperate measures to survive in the snow-swept Andes mountains. It was Nando’s unwavering courage and sustaining love for his family that kept him alive against all odds.  His speech was one of the most inspirational I have ever heard and brought the house down.  Many were reduced to tears!

Nando’s compelling story of the brutal challenges he faced puts our miniscule problems into perspective. I doubt there was one person in that audience of 1,000 or so who didn’t come away from that session feeling that if someone could overcome an elephant of a problem, then surely we could deal with an ant. We were all challenged and encouraged to take a broader view of our trials and tribulations.

Mountains of Challenges

Mountains of Challenges

What challenges are you currently facing? Are you so embroiled in an issue that it seems insurmountable?  Perhaps it might be time to read Miracle in the Andes: 72 Days on the Mountain and My Long Trek Home and gain a different perspective on how well you are coping with your problems.  You may be inspired to make that change that seemed like too much of an obstacle!

Are you Climbing up the Wrong Tree?

Are you Climbing the Wrong Tree?

Are you Climbing the Wrong Tree?

Many Baby Boomers hit midlife only to discover that real happiness is still elusive even though they are successful and appear to have everything they want, or at least that’s the way it seems to everyone else. They are suffering from Passion Deficit Disorder.   

Without passion they are “climbing up the wrong tree.”  Many people get into jobs, careers, businesses and relationships because “they fell into them”, “it seemed like a good idea at the time”, “my parents said I should”, “I didn’t know what else to do.”  They can come up with numerous reasons for where they are in life but none of them involve “it’s my passion … my purpose … my destiny.”

If you’re climbing up the wrong tree, the best strategy at this point is to get down.  That makes a great deal of sense but we sometimes forget the basics and continue climbing, either in a career situation or in personal circumstances.  Instead of getting down and heading in a new direction (i.e. a different tree), we unfortunately attempt to develop other strategies to try and make sense of a continued climb up the same tree. 

Some of these “strategies” could be described as:

  • Buying a longer ladder
  • Forming a committee to study the tree
  • Arranging a visit to other groups to see how they climb the wrong tree
  • Lowering the standards so that the “wrong tree” can be included
  • Hiring an intervention team to feed the tree and give it a new lease on life
  • Reclassifying the tree as “the right tree”
  • Hiring a partner to climb the wrong tree with you
  • Buying a more sturdy ladder for greater speed in climbing the wrong tree
  • Rewriting expectations for the tree
  • Adding a second ladder on the other side of the tree for a different perspective
  • Declaring that this smaller tree requires less of a cash outlay

If you would like to climb the “right” tree, the one that is perfect for you, contact me at evelin(at) and I’ll help you discover where that tree is and how to start climbing faster than you ever thought possible!

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